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When I used to fly and race cars, I described the experience as: "monotony punctuated by moments of sheer terror". That accurately describes what it is like teaching people to drive!
Having said that, helping your child learn to drive can be one of the most rewarding stages of being a parent. You get to spend time together, pass on some of your own driving experience and watch them gradually develop the confidence and independence that comes with learning to drive.
For some parents, it is great fun.
For others, it can be something of an emotional roller coaster!
The truth is, you probably won't know which experience you're going to have until you get into the car together.
Around three in four of my learners practise with a parent between lessons.
The good news is that there is a great deal we can do to make private practice safer, calmer and much more productive. The key is not to think of yourself as replacing the driving instructor. Instead, we work together: I establish the foundations and teach the techniques, while you provide something incredibly valuable that is difficult to achieve entirely through professional lessons – experience.
There's quite a lot of information in this guide, and you certainly don't need to remember all of it. If you take away just five things, I'd make them these:
Get those five things right and you'll already be giving your child some of the best support you can.
If you have the opportunity to drive regularly with your child while they're learning, I strongly encourage you to do it.
There are two particularly important reasons.
Once I have taught your child a particular skill, there is enormous value in simply giving them opportunities to practise it.
Not every hour behind the wheel needs to be a paid professional driving lesson. There are many skills that improve through repetition and experience, and private practice allows your child to accumulate those hours without you paying an instructor to sit alongside them.
On average, my manual learners who also practised with a parent needed 7.6 fewer hours of professional lessons – about 26% fewer.
You can expose your child to a far greater variety of driving situations than they are likely to experience solely through professional lessons. They can drive on ordinary family journeys rather than specially selected lesson routes. They can experience different traffic levels, unfamiliar roads, changing weather conditions and different times of day. That diversity is incredibly valuable.
Learning to drive is about far more than knowing how to operate a car. Your child needs to learn how to interact with other road users, anticipate what might happen next, negotiate with other drivers, assess risk and make independent decisions.
Those abilities develop through experience.
One of the easiest ways to reduce the stress of driving with your child is to allow me to establish the important foundations before you start doing too much private practice.
I'll teach them how to control the car, make appropriate observations, position themselves correctly, approach hazards and junctions, understand speed and interact safely with other road users.
That means that when they get into your car, you can help them practise and reinforce skills they have already been taught.
This also reduces the likelihood of us accidentally teaching contradictory techniques.
On that note, please don't introduce something I haven't taught yet. If your child tells you, "Geoff hasn't taught me this yet", don't worry about teaching it yourself. Let me know and I'll introduce it during a lesson.
Before jumping in the car with your son or daughter, there are a few legal requirements you need to check.
To supervise a learner driver, you must normally:
It is also important to remember that, as the supervising driver, you have legal responsibilities too. You must be fit to supervise, which means you must not be over the drink-drive limit or under the influence of drugs, and you should not use a handheld mobile phone while supervising.
The car itself must:
Traditional magnetic L plates are convenient, but they won't stick to every car. If yours has non-magnetic bodywork, I recommend good-quality suction-cup L plates, such as those made by Bits4Reasons, which are readily available online.
Make sure the plates are clearly visible and don't obstruct the driver's view. Avoid tucking them under windscreen wipers or positioning them behind glass where their visibility may be reduced.
Finally, remove the L plates when the learner isn't driving. Leaving them displayed can cause unnecessary confusion and may attract the attention of the police.
When your son or daughter was learning to walk, they would have fallen over. At no point did you berate them or say "that one's not a walker!" Instead you encouraged them to literally take baby steps, gave them encouragement and showed patience.
Driving is similar. Don't make things unnecessarily difficult. Encourage slow development that will build their confidence and capability. Be especially careful with confidence, as it is a very fragile thing – both yours and theirs!
Take them somewhere quiet. Choose somewhere with fewer moving vehicles, fewer pedestrians, straightforward roads and, frankly, fewer things for your child to hit! That allows them to concentrate on getting used to your car without simultaneously dealing with a complicated driving environment.
Around Sevenoaks, some useful areas for early private practice include:
The particular location is less important than the principle: reduce the risks and reduce the distractions.
As their ability improves, gradually increase the difficulty.
I definitely don't recommend letting them move the car on your driveway until they're proficient at stopping – your garage door will thank you!
Don't be surprised if your child initially struggles with things they appear perfectly capable of doing during their driving lessons. Your car may feel completely different to my car!
Give them time to adapt.
Learning to operate different vehicles is actually a useful skill in itself. Ultimately, I don't want somebody who has simply learnt how to drive my car. I want somebody who has learnt how to drive.
The most common issue pupils have driving an older manual car is that they need to add more gas to move off.
Private practice doesn't have to be a formal 90-minute driving lesson. Twenty or thirty minutes on an ordinary journey can still be enormously valuable.
If either you or the learner is tired, frustrated or no longer concentrating properly, stop. Another half-hour isn't necessarily productive.
I'd also encourage you to give your child experience of driving at different times of day and in different conditions. This might include driving after dark, during rush hour and, when appropriate, in rain or other poor weather. It gives them the opportunity to become familiar with using controls such as the lights, demisters and windscreen wipers, but more importantly, teaches them to adapt their driving as visibility, traffic and road conditions change. The aim isn't simply to accumulate more hours behind the wheel, but to build experience across as many different situations as possible.
Once I feel your child is ready, I'd strongly encourage you to include some dual carriageway driving in your private practice. The A21 is a regular driving test route and an important part of learning to drive around Sevenoaks.
For their first experience of the A21, I recommend joining southbound from Morleys Roundabout, where the slip roads are considerably easier. Once they're comfortable with the higher speeds, joining, leaving and changing lanes, you can gradually introduce the more challenging sections around Riverhead and Chipstead.
Please remember that you cannot take a learner driver onto a motorway. Learners may only drive on motorways when accompanied by a DVSA-approved driving instructor and in a car fitted with dual controls. I can introduce motorway driving when I feel they're ready, including before their driving test.
This is probably one of the most important pieces of advice I can give any parent:
Please try not to shout.
Your child is likely to be extremely sensitive to your reactions.
And remember, you don't actually have to say anything for them to know you're frightened! They can see you gripping the seat out of the corner of their eye. They'll notice you reaching for the door handle, bracing yourself against the dashboard or suddenly taking a sharp breath.
Your child is already processing an enormous amount of information. If the person sitting beside them appears frightened, their own stress levels can rise very quickly.
In extreme cases, repeated stressful experiences can damage a learner's confidence and even make them reluctant to drive the family car.
So try to remain positive or, at the very least, emotionally neutral.
If you see a situation developing, intervene early rather than waiting until you're frightened. A calm "slow down" given several seconds beforehand is much more useful than shouting "STOP!" at the last moment.
Try to give simple instructions rather than several at once. If necessary, ask your child to find somewhere safe to pull over and then discuss the situation.
Remember that unlike my tuition car, your family car probably won't have dual controls. That's another reason why you should only introduce more challenging roads once both you and your child are ready for them.
This is probably one of the most common comments I hear from parents.
Sometimes the learner genuinely is too close to the left.
But quite often, they aren't. The problem is that you are now sitting on the left-hand side of the car. If you've spent decades driving from the driver's seat, sitting in the passenger seat while an inexperienced driver controls the car can make you feel surprisingly vulnerable. Without realising it, parents sometimes encourage their child to move further towards the centre of the road simply because it makes the parent feel more comfortable.
Try to trust the positioning your child has been taught.
Also make sure your head and body are upright in the car, otherwise it may influence your perception.
With experience, you'll become much more comfortable sitting on the passenger side.
As your child's ability improves, try not to provide a constant commentary telling them exactly what to do. Early on, they'll naturally need plenty of help. But ultimately, they need to become capable of driving without either of us sitting beside them.
Gradually allow them to make more decisions themselves. The more decisions they make while they still have an experienced adult beside them, the better prepared they'll be for independent driving after they pass.
When you're supervising a learner, think of yourself as an active co-driver. You should be paying attention to the road, the developing hazards and what your child is doing throughout the journey.
I've occasionally seen parents reading a book or looking at their phone while their son or daughter is driving, seemingly unaware of what they're doing or, more importantly, where the car is going. I've even heard of an intoxicated parent being driven back from the pub by their child! Please don't do this.
Even when your child is approaching the test standard, you still need to remain alert. In fact, some of the scariest moments I've experienced as a driving instructor have involved pupils who were near the end of their training and perfectly capable of driving extremely well. It only takes one missed observation, unexpected hazard or poor decision to create a potentially serious situation.
Let them drive independently, but remain ready to identify a developing danger and intervene if necessary. Until they have passed their test and are legally driving independently, you are still their supervising driver – so stay engaged throughout the journey.
This might sound ridiculous, but here's a little test I've developed after years of teaching people to drive.
When your son or daughter finishes driving, swap seats with them. If you climb into the driver's seat and discover that it is remarkably warm – or, dare I say it, slightly damp – don't be too horrified!
It can actually tell you something useful. Learner drivers often put an extraordinary amount of physical and mental effort into driving. All that effort can quite literally make them hot and bothered.
As drivers become more experienced, many of these basic tasks become increasingly automatic. They no longer have to devote quite so much conscious thought to controlling the car, which leaves more mental capacity for observing, planning and making good decisions.
So if you swap seats and find yourself sitting on a surprisingly hot driving seat, have a little sympathy. It may be a very simple sign of just how hard your son or daughter has been working.
I passed my driving test in Sevenoaks in 1998, and even I'm surprised by how much driver training has changed since then.
Some techniques that were treated almost as rules when we learnt are no longer considered necessary. At the same time, other areas – particularly observation and awareness – receive considerably more emphasis.
So if you see your child doing something differently from the way you were taught, please don't immediately assume they're doing it incorrectly. Ask me for clarification, but here are the more common updates.
One of the biggest differences you may notice is the amount of observation your child has been taught to make.
Modern driver training places considerable emphasis on effective observations because what is happening around the vehicle is every bit as important as controlling the vehicle itself.
These observations aren't simply little routines designed to please a driving examiner. They're there to keep people safe.
Furthermore, they are vital on the driving test. If important observations are repeatedly missing or a lack of observation creates risk, it can result in an unsuccessful test.
So if you notice observations disappearing during private practice, please encourage your child to put them back in.
You may have been taught to apply the handbrake almost automatically whenever you stopped.
Your child does not need to routinely apply the parking brake every time they're stationary in traffic, and they won't necessarily use it for every hill start.
There will naturally be circumstances where using the parking brake while stationary is appropriate, but don't worry simply because their hand isn't constantly reaching for it.
Many modern cars have an electric parking brake, and on some vehicles it will release automatically when you press the accelerator and begin to move. Be particularly careful when reversing. Some cars require a reasonable amount of accelerator before the parking brake releases. When it eventually does, the car can move backwards more suddenly than the learner was expecting. For a new driver, I recommend releasing the electric parking brake manually before reversing, rather than relying on the automatic release. This allows the pupil to move away gently and under control.
Your car may have an Auto Hold function. This allows you to bring the car to a stop using the footbrake and then take your foot off the brake while the car remains stationary. Although this can be a useful feature for experienced drivers, I recommend switching it off while your child is learning. Initially, I want pupils to develop a very simple habit: if you want the car to stay stopped, keep your foot on the brake.
Turning the steering wheel while the vehicle isn't moving is allowed.
Many of us were taught never to do this. That advice originates from a time when vehicles, tyres and steering systems were very different.
With modern cars, dry steering is perfectly acceptable when it is useful, particularly during low-speed manoeuvring and parking.
You may also remember being taught a very strict push-pull or "feeding the wheel" steering technique.
Your child doesn't have to steer that way. They can make larger steering movements. Their hands can cross if necessary and, at very low speeds while manoeuvring, they may even use the palm of their hand to help turn the steering wheel.
What matters is control. During normal driving, I want them to keep both hands on the steering wheel whenever practical and to steer smoothly and safely.
Many of us were taught to work sequentially through the gearbox:
First → second → third → fourth → fifth
Then, when slowing down, we would work our way back through the gears:
Fifth → fourth → third → second
That's no longer necessary.
Instead, I teach pupils to select the gear that is appropriate for the speed of the car and the situation ahead, which can use a technique known as block shifting.
Your child might accelerate through first and second gear and then, when their speed is appropriate, change directly from second to fourth.
They haven't forgotten third! They're simply selecting the gear the car now requires.
This helps pupils think about the relationship between speed and gear, rather than seeing gear changes as a fixed sequence they have to work through.
It can also contribute towards smoother, more fuel-efficient driving.
You'll probably notice an even bigger difference when your child slows down.
We don't routinely teach learners to use the gearbox to slow the car by working progressively down through every gear. Instead, we'll normally use the brakes to reduce the speed and then select whichever gear is appropriate for the speed we've reached.
A good Sevenoaks example is coming off the A21 towards Morleys Roundabout. We may leave the A21 in fifth gear, use the brakes to reduce the vehicle's speed along the slip road and then change directly from fifth to second gear.
Generally, there is no need to signal simply because you are moving out to pass a parked car.
Your road position already communicates a great deal. If there is a parked car ahead and you gradually position your vehicle to pass it, what you are doing will normally be obvious to other road users.
In fact, signalling right can sometimes make your intentions less clear rather than more clear. For example, if there is a side road or driveway nearby, another road user could reasonably interpret your right signal as meaning that you intend to turn right.
You may remember being taught manoeuvres such as a turn in the road or reversing around a corner. These are no longer tested as specific exercises, although the underlying skills of observation, judgement and vehicle control remain important.
I will teach them specific techniques for parking on roads and in car parks. Again, practising these once I've taught them may be helpful.
As with everything else, don't make parking unnecessarily difficult when your child is first learning. Choose a quiet car park with plenty of empty spaces. Sunday morning is usually the quietest time of the week.
Allow them to practise the technique I've taught them without another driver waiting impatiently behind them or pedestrians constantly walking around the vehicle.
Once they're comfortable, you can progressively introduce more realistic environments.
As a parent you may have taught your child to cycle around Sevenoaks railway station car park, so it may come to mind as a good place to practise driving and parking. But be warned!
If you practise parking at Sevenoaks railway station or Miller & Carter in Riverhead, please be particularly careful. Both car parks are monitored using automatic number plate recognition (ANPR) cameras. You may receive a parking charge if you stay beyond the permitted time or don't pay for parking when required.
It's therefore very easy for a short parking practice session to become unexpectedly expensive! Always check the signs and parking requirements before you start practising.
The cars I teach in have a number of modern driver aids, including parking sensors and reversing cameras, all of which are allowed during driving tests. So I actively encourage pupils to use them!
Used correctly, these systems can provide useful additional information, reduce risk and make manoeuvring considerably easier. They can also help a pupil perform a manoeuvre more accurately during their driving test.
If your car doesn't have them, that's absolutely fine. Reversing cameras and parking sensors are useful tools, but they're certainly not prerequisites for private practice. Your child will still learn the observations, judgement and fundamental skills required to manoeuvre safely.
If they're going to practise regularly in a vehicle without these aids, just let me know. It's very easy for me to teach them how to adapt their technique so they're equally comfortable parking and manoeuvring without them.
Absolutely not. If your child is learning to drive a manual with me but your family car is automatic, I would much rather they gained additional experience with you in an automatic than didn't practise at all.
There can sometimes be a slightly amusing adjustment when a pupil has been doing lots of private practice in an automatic and then gets back into my manual car. They may drive off and forget to change gear because they've become accustomed to the car doing it for them. Or they may come to a stop and forget to depress the clutch – followed by the inevitable stall! This is not a problem at all. Within a short period, they're changing gears and operating the clutch again without thinking about it.
If your child is going to practise in an automatic, there's one thing I would particularly like you to reinforce: use the right foot for both the accelerator and the brake.
There are two important reasons.
Firstly, if they're learning manual with me, their left foot already has a job: the clutch.
Secondly, using one foot for both the accelerator and brake encourages a very simple sequence: off the gas → onto the brake. This reduces the likelihood of inadvertently maintaining accelerator pressure while applying the brake and encourages smooth, deliberate pedal control.
With many modern automatics, once the vehicle has completely stopped, you'll simply select Park (P) as part of the parking procedure. There's no benefit in teaching your child to use a manual parking brake – unless the manufacturer's instructions specify otherwise.
Around three in four of my learners have access to a car for practising between professional lessons.
If you're thinking about buying your child their first car, I've written a separate guide explaining what I recommend looking for.
However, you may find that your existing family car is perfectly suitable for private practice. So don't feel that you have to buy another vehicle simply so your child can practise.
And, as we've already discussed, don't dismiss your existing car simply because it's an automatic and your child is learning manual.
The main reason a family car may not be suitable is if it's too expensive to insure.
Naturally, your child must be properly insured before they drive your vehicle.
One option I often suggest parents investigate is Veygo learner driver insurance.
One of the attractions of specialist learner insurance is that it can potentially provide separate cover for the learner alongside the vehicle owner's existing insurance arrangements, so you may not necessarily have to change your normal policy. Depending on the policy and circumstances, standalone learner cover may also be available.
Insurance products and their terms can change, so always check the current cover carefully and make sure the policy is suitable for your particular vehicle and circumstances before allowing your child to drive.
I've written a separate, much more detailed guide [source to add: guide to be confirmed] explaining exactly what happens on the practical driving test, but it's useful for parents to understand the basics – including what happens before the test even begins.
We will normally meet around one hour before the test. This gives your son or daughter time to settle into the car, warm up and get comfortable without feeling rushed. We can revisit any last-minute questions, practise the manoeuvres and deal with anything they would particularly like to go over.
Your son or daughter is very welcome to use my car for their driving test. There are several advantages to this: they will already be familiar with the car, it is prepared for driving tests and it has a number of driver aids that they will already know how to use.
Where possible, I also sit in the back of the car during the test. I have accompanied pupils on more than 100 driving tests in Sevenoaks, and this gives me invaluable first-hand experience of how tests are conducted, the routes and situations pupils encounter, and the standards examiners apply. It also means that, whatever the result, I have the full context when discussing the drive afterwards.
The practical driving test itself lasts around 40 minutes, with approximately 35 minutes spent driving. During that time, the examiner will assess your child across a variety of roads, junctions and traffic conditions.
They will be asked to complete one reversing exercise, which could be:
They may also be asked to perform an emergency stop.
A significant part of the test involves independent driving. Rather than receiving turn-by-turn instructions from the examiner, your child will be asked to follow directions using a satnav and/or traffic signs. I have a copy of the satnav examiners use, which is an essential part of my mock test preparation.
My lessons include teaching the 12 common test-route variations around Sevenoaks, four of which include the A21 dual carriageway. This is one reason I make sure pupils gain experience across a wide variety of roads and situations rather than simply becoming comfortable around quiet residential areas.
The examiner is not looking for a perfect drive.
Your child needs to demonstrate that they can drive safely, legally and independently, make appropriate progress and deal sensibly with the situations they encounter. Small mistakes can happen and do not necessarily mean they have failed. What matters is whether they can demonstrate that they are ready to drive safely on their own once the examiner gets out of the car. And whilst I'd like them to "chauffeur" the examiner around:
They don't need a smooth ride, just a safe ride.
Naturally, every parent wants to give their child the best possible chance of becoming a safe driver and passing their test.
In 2026, 87% of my learners' driving tests ended in a pass, against a Sevenoaks average of about 59%.
I mention this not because passing the test is our only objective – it certainly isn't – but because I hope it gives you confidence in the methods and standards I'll be teaching your child.
87% of my learners' driving tests passed in 2026 ([X] of [Y] tests, counting every attempt). Sevenoaks test centre average about 59%, DVSA data.
According to the Sevenoaks DVSA test centre [source to add: source to be confirmed], three of the most common reasons for an unsuccessful test are:
From my experience, one of the most common reasons pupils are unsuccessful on their driving test is test-day nerves. When nerves take over, even a capable driver can struggle to perform at their best and may make mistakes they would rarely make during a normal lesson. This is why I place such a strong emphasis on developing good driving habits until many of the essential routines become almost subconscious, rather than requiring deliberate thought. I also work hard to create a calm, reassuring learning environment so that, when test day arrives, driving feels as familiar and natural as possible.
You're also very welcome to join my WhatsApp group, where I regularly share videos and analysis from my pupils' actual driving tests in Sevenoaks. Just ask me for complimentary membership.
In these anonymised videos, I explain what the pupil did well, where they received driving faults and, where appropriate, what they could have done differently. They provide a useful insight into the standard expected on the driving test and highlight the types of situations that can catch learners out.
I'd encourage you to watch them with your child. You can learn a great deal from seeing real situations experienced by other pupils, and it will help you understand the techniques, observations and decision-making that I'm trying to reinforce during their lessons.
The more you understand what we're working towards, the easier it becomes for you to support and reinforce their learning during private practice.
Perhaps the most important thing to remember throughout all of this is: you don't need to become a driving instructor.
You don't need to know every current driving test requirement. You don't need to understand every technical teaching technique, and you certainly don't need to recreate a professional driving lesson every time you get into the car.
Let me provide the technical instruction. Let me establish the foundations. Let me identify and correct the more difficult problems.
What you can provide is something enormously valuable: time behind the wheel.
When somebody is learning to drive, it's very easy for everything to become focused on one date: the driving test.
Of course, we want them to pass. But the driving test isn't really the end goal.
The much bigger moment comes afterwards, when your child gets into a car for the first time without you or me sitting beside them.
That's what we're preparing them for.
Professional lessons give them knowledge, technique and structured development.
Private practice gives them experience, variety and the opportunity to make thousands of small decisions for themselves.
Put the two together and we give them the best possible preparation – not simply to pass a driving test, but to become a safe, confident and independent driver for life.
And if we can make the process enjoyable for both you and your child along the way, even better.
If I identify something during a lesson that would benefit from additional practice, I'll let you know. You can then reinforce that during your private practice.
But communication works both ways. If you notice something while driving with your child that concerns you, please tell me. Learners sometimes drive slightly differently with their parents than they do with their instructor, so your feedback can be genuinely valuable.
We're not two separate people teaching two different methods. We're a team.
If you ever have a question, please get in touch via WhatsApp on 07700 101099.
I'm always very happy to help.
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